THE LUCK O' THE IRISH BE WITH YE
St. Patrick's Day is the next fun holiday and it's right around the corner
March 17th. Many couples that celebrate an Irish heritage (or simply enjoy
the traditions involved) will be infusing their share of Irish flavor
into their upcoming nuptials. While most of the Irish wedding ceremony
is similar to American ceremonies and receptions, we have pulled together
some ideas and traditions to help make your event distinctly Celtic.
It is common for Irish couples to exchange the traditional Claddaugh
rings. Their unique design, two hands holding a heart underneath a crown,
is the Irish symbol for "Let Love and Friendship Reign".
A traditional Irish wedding cake is actually Fruit Cake. Its richness
symbolizes the hope for wealth and prosperity. However, fruitcake doesn't
always sound appealing to the couple or their guests, so we suggest making
just the top layer of the wedding cake follow in the Irish custom. Use
your favorite flavors then to make up the remaining layers of the cake.
In addition, Irish couples save the top layer from the wedding cake and
eat it at the christening celebration of their first child.
For good luck, Irish brides carry a small horseshoe in their bouquets
or may have one sewn into the hem of their wedding dresses.
There are various Irish blessings, which can be added to the wedding
invitation, wedding programs or the best man's toast at the reception.
Did you know that green is actually considered an unlucky color at Irish
weddings? Neither guests nor the wedding party would ever attend a wedding
wearing green.
Though they are typically considered Scottish, bagpipes have their roots
in Ireland. The sound of pipes coming from a distance can create a truly
Celtic ambiance. (At close proximity, bagpipes can be unbearably loud
and disruptive to conversation).
Other Celtic details to consider:
Incorporate a dance lesson into your wedding reception. Teach your guests
to do the ceilidh, a traditional Irish jig.
Wear a veil or carry a handkerchief made from beautiful Irish lace.
Portents and omens:
It
was unlucky to marry on a Saturday.
Those
who married in harvest would spend all their lives gathering
A
man should always be the first to wish joy to the bride, never a woman
It
was lucky to hear a cuckoo on the wedding morning, or to see three magpies
To
meet a funeral on the road meant bad luck and if there was a funeral procession
planned for that day, the wedding party always took a different road
The
wedding party should always take the longest road home from the church
It
was bad luck if a glass or cup were broken on the wedding day
A
bride and groom should never wash their hands in the same sink at the
same timeit's courting disaster if they do
It
was said to be lucky if you married during a 'growing moon and a flowing
tide'
When
leaving the church, someone must throw an old shoe over the bride's head
so she will have good luck
If
the bride's mother-in-law breaks a piece of wedding cake on the bride's
head as she enters the house after the ceremony, they will be friends
for life.
Wedding Dress - Since ancient times and until this century, an
Irish bride wore her best dress to the wedding. Or, if the budget would
allow it, she'd have the village 'nanty' make a wedding gown for her that
she would subsequently wear on special occasions. For hundreds of years,
blue was a favorite color and silk the preferred fabric for a wedding
gown. Even though it had been introduced hundreds of years ago by a Celt,
Anne of Brittany in 1499, the all-white wedding gown didn't come into
popular vogue until quite recently. Isolated for many years from the whims
of fashion, Irish brides followed the traditions of world-wide custom
and wore whatever dress represented the best they had. Other special garments
were also worn, a bridal cloak of brilliant red, for example.
Today, Irish brides prefer understated, graceful lines and elegant, simple
styles. 'Poufs', says Peggy,'are out'. What is definitely in, is Celtic
braiding on the wedding dress, a look made popular by Irish-based designers,
Sharon Hoey and Cathy DeStafford of Dublin. Mary Gristwood of Celtia Gowns
is also doing incredibly intricate embroidery, and the design team of
Lorraine Gibbons and Miriam Spollen at Bronte Bridal Designs will astound
you with their ability to carry through a Celtic motif all the way from
your wedding gown to your train to your shoes.
Alternatively, you could purchase a very simple wedding gown and have
it embellished with Irish white embroidery.
GROOM - Envious too, they would be of a typical sixteenth-century
groom in his bright yellow silk shirt. Pleated in all directions from
shoulder to wrist and neck to waist, its incredible color was captured
from a dye made with Autumn crocuses. On top, he might have worn a short
jacket made of the softest linen. Often embellished with intricate embroidery,
the sleeves were left open along the underside so that the pleats of the
shirt could flow down. Completing the ensemble would have been a pair
of tight-fitting breeches and a sleeveless cloak, clasped at the shoulder
with a brooch.
Often, men's tunics and women's dresses were made of white linen that
was embroidered or appliquéd in gold or a bright color such as
red, blue, purple or yellow. Patterned materials were also widely used
and cloaks in particular were adorned with borders, stripes and fringes.
Our ancestors also wore shoes and sandals that were dyed or decorated.
These were saved for special occasions since the old literature indicates
that both kings and peasants preferred to go barefoot. Planning a much
more modern celebration? The groom and the groomsmen will look very dashing
if their tuxedo accessories, including vests, cummerbunds, cravats or
bow ties, match or complement the bridesmaid's dresses.
Bridesmaids : You'll be more in keeping with Irish weddings as
they used to be if you decide not to ask your bridesmaids to spend a fortune
on dresses that they may wear only once. In fact, it's becoming quite
popular for bridesmaids to select a dress that flatters their individual
shape, so, while everyone is wearing shades of the same color, the styles
may be completely different. When was the last time you were asked to
be a bridesmaid and the bride said you could simply wear your best outfit?
Unheard of? Different? Most definitely affordable! Should you prefer however,
to stay within the realms of contemporary tradition, you can incorporate
an Irish flair into the bridesmaid's dresses in the same ways already
described for the bridal gown. What is also refreshingly different about
today's styles is that we're no longer confined to those unattractive
taffeta concoctions of years ago. Nowadays, a bridesmaid's dress can be
very sophisticated and elegant and many of the most popular colors, including
celadon, gold and champagne will work well in an Irish color scheme. Consider
too, in your choice of gowns for the wedding party, details that are symbolic
of old Ireland cloaks and shawls for example.
Flowers: In the old days, many Irish brides wore a wreath of wildflowers
in their hair; they also carried them in bouquets. In Wales, brides carried
live myrtle andgave a sprig to each bridesmaid which they planted. If
it grew, the bridesmaid would marry within the year. If you're planning
a more general Celtic celebration, this might be worth considering.
Flower Girl: Simple is best and definitely more appropriate than
many of the dresses I've seen which resemble miniature bridal gowns. A
charming outfit would be an old-fashioned white pinafore topping a solid
color dress, Whatever you decide, it would be more traditional if the
dress is tea-length. Also, browse through catalogs such as Creative Irish
Gifts. In a recent edition, they featured a sweet mint-green frock with
a detachable, embroidered pinafore. Also keep in mind that while little
girls wearing hats or halos of flowers look lovely, they're often uncomfortable.
Often, a very young flower girl will remove her hat or other headpiece
just at the wrong moment. Better to avoid this situation by allowing your
flower girl(s) to have their hair arranged in the usual way, but perhaps
with the addition of ribbons that coordinate with their dresses. This
would be in keeping with how young Irish girls adorned their hair in the
seventeenth century.
Ring Bearer: We have yet to find a reference to the role of ring
bearer in Irish history. In the absence of any solid information, I would
suggest that you keep the ring bearer's outfit simple. Fussy details,
a la Little Lord Fauntleroy, may make him uncomfortable and fidgety. You
might consider looking into the traditional costume of a male Irish dancer.
Do keep in mind, however, that kilts are not traditionally Irish.
Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue. This
rhyme originated during the Victorian era and has become a tradition for
brides all over the world, including Ireland. Here's how you can add an
Irish touch to this relatively recent custom:
Something old: There's an old Irish superstition that a bride
must walk down the aisle with a coin in her shoe. This ensures that good
fortune will smile on the marriage. So, for something old, ask a relative
in Ireland to send you a circulated five-penny piece, or, if that's not
possible, you can purchase one that comes in its own little satin sack
from stores specializing in Irish products.
Something new: For the something new, why not make it a magic
hanky? A lovely old Irish custom, the magic hanky is carried on the wedding
day and then put away until the christening of the first child. With a
few cleverly placed stitches, it is then turned into a christening bonnet.
After the christening, it is put away again until the child grows up and
marries. On that wedding day, a few snips will turn it back into a hanky.
(And by then, it will make for a most appropriate 'something old!') You'll
find magic hankies made of pure Irish linen and lace in Irish specialty
stores, at Celtic festivals and in catalogs.
Something borrowed: In Ireland, it's said that if the bride borrows
something from a happily married woman, then her marriage will be happy
too.
Something blue: Irish brides once considered blue to be very lucky;
it is also the color of fidelity and symbolizes a bride's commitment to
her husband. If your color scheme includes blue, you might consider blue
Celtic braiding sewn into the bodice of your wedding gown. You could also
wear a blue slip (but be sure it doesn't show through), or perhaps a garter
trimmed in blue ribbon. These are readily available in most wedding invitation
catalogs.
(Much of this information is from the invaluable book "The Traditional
Irish Wedding" by Bridget Haggerty, published by Irish Books and
Media, and used with kind permission of author and publisher.)
Helpful Links:
IrishShop.com
- everything Irish
Ireland.com - today in Ireland
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